Female Masturbation
Female Masturbation
Masturbation : Tips on Masturbating for Women
Self Gratification: Not only is it the safest form of sexual play, but who knows how to pleasure yourself better than you? In this section, you’ll find information that has to do with self-love. You’ll find actual how to articles, and I’m also including other articles and information that are related to self-loving as well. Whether it’s a quickie or a slower, more involved session, I want you to get the most out of loving yourself..
Overview
Masturbation is a wonderful way to receive sexual pleasure or release sexual energy or tension. You can do it anytime and anywhere. It’s all about you, so you’ll never be turned down! It’s a very natural activity that we all have a right, as a human being, to do. By masturbating, we learn what type of stimulation feels good to us. This is important information to know when engaging in sexual play with a partner. If you don’t know how and where you like to be touched, how will you be able to communicate that to your partner.
There’s enough anxiety and stress involved with pleasing a partner or lover, you should be able to adequately communicate this to your partner and vise versa. Then everyone will benefit from the experience. You’ll get great sexual pleasure from your lover and your lover will take comfort in knowing that he/she is doing what you like and you’re well satisfied by him/her.
When masturbating, you can go as slow or as fast as you’d like .You can tease yourself for hours before climaxing or you can do it and get it done in just a few minutes and move on with your day. There’s no pressure on whether you’re doing a good job, you’re pleasing yourself. And if it doesn’t feel that good in the beginning, you can try as many different things as you like.
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Masturbation is having sex: You don’t have to be with a partner just to have sex. Anything that gives you sexual pleasure is sex. Don’t allow all the negative talk of masturbation turn you away. And masturbation will not make you not want to have sex with your lover. It’s not an either or thing. You may love to masturbate, but there’s nothing like sharing your love and your body with another human being. Get the best of both worlds, don’t choose!
Masturbation is Healthy: It relieves stress, tension and menstrual cramps, releases endorphins, fights yeast infections by increasing blood flow to the pelvis, exercises and flushes the prostate gland, strengthens pelvic muscles, is a good cardiovascular workout, burns calories, gives you sexual self confidence which boosts self esteem and allows you to remain sexually active throughout your entire life. Masturbation is great way for pregnant women and people with physical limitations to enjoy sex.
If you’ve never had an orgasm before, many sex therapists prescribe regular masturbation – usually an hour a day for several weeks is all it takes. And basically your goal is to relax, to free yourself from all your worries and distractions and pay attention to yourself and your own pleasure. They say even if you don’t touch your genitals in the beginning that’s fine, just relax yourself enough to be able to do that.
Masturbation is Safe: And, this has to be the number one reason, Masturbation is the safest sex next to abstinence. And it’s more fun too. You don’t have to worry about catching any STD’s because it’s your own bodily fluids, so use as many toys and fingers as you’d like and go back and forth among them all. So see, there’s no reason not to masturbate. In fact a study by the Kinsey Institute on masturbation revealed that 94% of men masturbate and 74% of women masturbate. So see, if you’re not in that statistic, you’re missing out.
Myths about masturbation
Masturbation is addictive: No, there’s no right amount of times to masturbate. You can do it as much as you’d like, as long as it doesn’t interfere in your life in a negative way.
It’s wrong to receive such pleasure: This is very unfortunate and untrue. Everyone deserves to have some pleasures in life. It’s not wrong to indulge. It doesn’t mean you won’t want your partner anymore and it definitely doesn’t mean that your partner isn’t pleasing you properly.
Masturbation is dangerous: No, no, no. Just use common sense. Don’t do anything that may cause harm to yourself. And as far as having heart disease and having a heart attack; the Journal of American Medical Association reports that men have more of chance of having a heart attack after waking up, exerting themselves, or getting angry. But after sex, it’s very unlikely. If you can go for walks and exercise, you can masturbate.
As I have said before, there is no right or wrong way to do it . As long as it feels good and you aren’t going to harm yourself, it’s okay. Pleasure is the goal and however you get there is perfect. So this article is written mostly for the women out there who are curious about masturbating, but just don’t know where to begin.
First of all, set up a comfortable environment for yourself. If you’re going to use toys, get them and your lube out and near the play area. I love to read erotica, but not long novels or romance novels. I love the short, dirty stories. They have a little bit of a plot to get into, but then it gets to the good stuff, the sex…and there’s so many details describing the sex that I can easily picture it in my mind and feel it happening to my body that I am immediately ready to pleasure myself. These stories easily bring me into the world of fantasy and make me forget about everything around me.
I also enjoy watching an erotic movie. Watching a movie allows both hands to be free to wander, I don’t have to hold on to a book. Some movies have a heavier story line that sucks me into the fantasy world and makes the sex scenes that much better. I also enjoy hearing the sound of sex, the actors and actresses moaning and talking dirty, that really gets me hot too.
If you’re ability to visualize past sexual encounters, is strong, you may just want to turn on some music that will help frame that memory and get yourself off that way. While I have some great memories to pull from, my ability to vividly visualize them for masturbation isn’t that strong. So it’s not one of my techniques for masturbating, but it might be yours and if it is, good for you. Basically, whatever gets you in the mood will help you do it.
Here are some different areas to stimulate when masturbating
Clitoral Stimulation: You can use your hands, fingers, knuckles, a shower head, running water, vibrators, rubbing up against an object, anything that will stimulate the clitoris. The clitoris is the one organ on our bodies that is purely for sexual pleasure. It is the spot. Women are very excited by stimulation of the g-spot, but some women are unable to orgasm unless they receive some sort of clitoral stimulation. And some women can not receive any clitoral stimulation until she is well aroused, because it is so sensitive. And then others just find clitoral stimulation irritating. And there are many ways to stimulate the clitoris.
By using your fingers or hand, you can rub, stroke or pinch the actual clitoris. You can also rub the area around the clitoris. One good move that I like to do is grab the skin around the clit and rub it together. This kind of indirectly stimulates the clit. The clit is kind of like a small penis, although much more sensitive. So you can grab it and stroke it, just like you would a penis. Just make sure you’re well lubricated because rubbing the vagina or clitoris raw is not fun…I know from experience.
The all important shower massager head can be wonderful too. The shower head where you can adjust the stream of water, a steady, gentle stream and then a more powerful jet spray can be quite exciting. In fact, I’m getting excited just thinking about it. Just be careful to not send strong streams of water into the vagina for a very long period of time because it can cause air embolism. And if you’re in the tub don’t be afraid to get slide down and get your naughty bits under the running faucet, that can be really fun too!
I love sex toys!!! I would have to say a majority of my sexual encounters and masturbation sessions involve a toy of some kind. They just add that little extra to sex that makes it so much fun. My absolute favorite toy, the don’t leave home without it, is the Hitachi Magic Wand. It’s not the only vibe I use, I have many different vibrators for different days and different moods, but it is one that I grab often.
Holding a vibrator up against your clit is the way to feel the maximum amount of vibrations. But since clits can be extremely sensitive to that, you can also hold the vibrator around the general area, the vulva, the pubic bone, the anus, the area between the vagina and anus.
I have also found that the lower end of the vaginal opening is very sensitive to vibrations as well. If the vibrations are too strong, just put a towel or washcloth between you and the vibrator/massager and that will lessen the intensity as well. I have also, at times, put my index finger over my clit and held the vibrator on my finger. That seems to subdue the vibrations nicely.
G-Spot Stimulation: There are many toys out there that are specifically made to locate and stimulate the g-spot. I really like the Patchy Paul II Green 8″ Vibrator. This g-spot vibrator from Fun Factory Toys is made of silicone which means it’s very easy to clean and sanitize. The textured shaft plus the strong, smooth vibrations provide great g-spot stimulation. I couldn’t believe how the strong the vibrations were and how quiet the motor actually was. Another plus is that the Patchy Paul II is waterproof, so you can play in the shower. It’s also such a fun looking vibe.
So by using a dildo vibrator with some girth, like good old Patchy Paul, you will also get that added feeling of fullness in your vagina, which completes the whole experience. Although, if you can locate your g-spot and can manipulate it and stimulate it with your fingers to your pleasure, then all the better. Many women find it easier though to use some kind of toy.
Anal Stimulation: The anus is a very sensitive area of the body. It holds a lot of tension and can be associated with a lot of misery, but when given a little bit of TLC (tender loving care), it can bring you to a wonderful place. You can explore the area with your fingers, just rubbing or tickling the area, or use small insertable anal toys.
If you’re looking for something that’s not too large, the Big Flirt should do the trick. I’m not one that can stick a big, bulbous butt plug in my precious bottom with ease. I have found that the slim tip that slowly expands allows for easy and comfortable insertion. It’s not too much too soon, which is where other plugs fail miserably with me.
I like to take my time with it because it feels really good. Since the Big Flirt is made of silicone is it’s very easy to sanitize by putting in the top rack of your dishwasher or tossing in boiling water. Although I’m always clean down there when I engage in any kind of anal play, I prefer to use the black plug…I like dark colored anal toys. Just make sure that whenever you insert a toy, finger, etc. into your anus that you have plenty of lubrication and make sure whatever toy you use has a flared base on one end of it!
Vaginal Stimulation: And last but not least, there’s always just pure penetration for the feeling of penetration. There are what seems to be a massive amount of dildos and vibrating dildos on the market. These are great for the times when you don’t want anything fancy, but still want some pleasure. These dildos come with no fancy attachments, it’s just a dildo to penetrate yourself with.
I love the Dichroic Wrapped G-Spot Glass Dildo, from Phallix. This glass dildo is not only gorgeous…but it gives a very divine feeling of fulfillment with its large head and it will last you a lifetime. And if your fingers or hands feel good too, than go for it! To learn more about glass dildos, be sure to check out my glass dildos guide.
You can also really treat to yourself to one of those multi-stimulation dildo/vibrators like the famous Jack Rabbit. This vibrator provides simultaneous vaginal penetration, g-spot stimulation and clitoral stimulation all in one toy and at the same time!
I have recently tried the Sutera Xtreme Flutter Vibrator…wow, there is so much going happening with this one, I almost couldn’t handle it. It offers the same features as the Jack Rabbit, g-spot stimulation from rotating shaft, pearls inside shaft stimulate the vaginal opening and the tip of the clitoral stimulator gets the clitoris all worked up…but now there’s an added bonus.
This one has wings on the protruding clitoral stimulator. These nubs vibrate against the vulva, causing more divine stimulation. I thought it would be just too much, but it all worked in harmony for me. Many women swear by these kinds of vibrators because they do give a woman just about all the stimulation she can handle during masturbation.
Breast Stimulation: Let’s not forget about them. Touching, rubbing, fondling and even attaching nipple clamps can be very exciting. If you’re breasts are large enough, try licking your nipples yourself. This can be extremely pleasurable. The breasts are a wonderful erogenous zone that should not be ignored during any type of sex play.
There is no right way to do it. You don’t even have to get naked. Just relax and explore your body and see what feels good. For even more ideas, I recommend Marilyn Chambers Guide to Masturbation. You can watch it in our online theater or purchase the DVD. You’ll learn everything from how to use your fingers to how to use various vibrators like the pocket rocket and the rabbit vibrators.
Reaching the Big O: If you are a woman who has trouble in reaching orgasm – even through masturbation – you might like to follow the advice given below.
How to achieve orgasm through masturbation – even if you’ve never managed it before Allocate some time – at least an hour, twice a week – when you know you’ll have the house to yourself and can guarantee being undisturbed. (Arranging this can be the hardest part of the exercise!)
Take a leisurely bath, using your favourite bath oil. Relax. Enjoy soaping your whole body. Give your breasts and your genitals plenty of attention.
Dry yourself with love and care and continue to explore your body as you do so.
Move to the bedroom. Make sure it’s warm and that it looks nice and is a pleasant place to be. Put some favourite music on if you’d like. Lie on the bed and carry on touching yourself, anyhow and any place that you like. All sorts of parts of your body might give you pleasant feelings. Find them! Give them attention. Be aware of pleasure.
Rub baby oil into your breasts and into your neck and throat. Enjoy the feeling.
Gradually allow you hands to travel lower in your body. Caress your abdomen, and then use some more baby oil and touch yourself between your legs. There is no wrong or right way of doing this. Just let your instinct take over.
Slip your fingers into your vagina. Try tightening your muscles round your fingers. Then relax. Try gently stretching the vaginal opening – this is something that gives exquisite pleasure to many women.
Start circling the area where your clitoris is. Don’t hurry this. As you become more focused on your genitals, you may well find that you start applying more and more pressure to your clitoris, and that your breathing is quickening, and – best of all – that you’re really enjoying yourself.
Don’t worry if you don’t get any further than this on the first few occasions. So long as you feel that you are loving your body and appreciating it and experiencing some good sensations, then that’s fine.
Don’t forget that the most powerful part of a woman’s arousal equipment is in her mind. So it can be helpful to introduce some mental stimulation into the exercise. Try thinking of things that turn you on. Or, while you’re stimulating yourself, read from one of those erotic novels written for women.
You might even like to try caressing yourself while viewing a sexy video – if you have a video recorder in your bedroom or somewhere else in the house where you can feel uninhibited and comfortable. One of Betty Dodson’s famous videos on assisting women to reach orgasm through masturbation may help.
You may like to use a vibrator – as many women find this increases their arousal quite magically. If you don’t know where to get good books, videos or sex aids, see the Further information section.
Each time you start caressing your body, try to keep going for longer and to increase your delight in what you’re finding out about yourself. Don’t panic if you still sometimes have feelings that what you’re doing is wrong. Just breathe deeply and tell yourself that it is every woman’s right to love and enjoy her own body – and that masturbation is healthy and good and normal.
One day you will find that your caresses become more insistent and that you are breathing heavier and that you feel a desperate urge to carry on what you’re doing. It’s common to feel a bit frightened at the intensity of what’s happening if you’ve never felt it before, but go with the feelings. You deserve to have them. If rubbing your clitoris alone doesn’t quite get you to your climax, try putting one or two fingers of your other hand into your vagina. Or use a vibrator in your vagina or on your clitoris. Your instinct should take over and tell you what to do.
Hopefully these powerful feelings will lead to your first orgasm. And once you’ve had one – you’ll find you can have others – maybe even on the same day!
Most women like to practice having orgasms a few times on their own before involving a partner, but once you do choose to try with the person you care for, make sure you incorporate what you’ve been doing into your love play. Show your partner what you like and let him or her help you to experience this great joy.
If you follow this plan, without putting pressure on yourself to succeed you will become more sexually aware, and it shouldn’t be too long before you join the ranks of the orgasmic.
Good Luck.
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